In part one of What To Text a Girl I discussed the two archetypes; The Eager Girl and The SoSo Girl. I’m now going to discuss how to convert the SoSo girl into a date.

You basically have two options.

1. Near complete dismissal
2. Relentless Charming Persistence

Near complete dismissal means you don’t chase. You may send her the odd message once every two days and hope for a reply and If she hooks and gives you anything more than a one or two line answer, you shoot for a meet. If she doesn’t bite, you back off, and ultimately…let it die. It’s over. If you are an experienced cold approacher then you should have plenty more options anyway. If you have tons of options you can fall back on NCD.

Then there is the relentless charming persistence option. This means you basically push for a meet until she either complies, or stops replying.

Option 1 is considered long game. It’s a long term approach. The strategy is that over time she will come to recognize you as a member of her social circle. One day perhaps she will finally agree to a meet. Hey…it happens. It relies on her deciding that you are high value based off your non neediness.

You basically ping her with sporadic texts every several days. You invite her to parties or social events. You tell her about cool things you see like car accidents or lesbian makeouts. Little things that will spike her attention and get her to reply. One I like to use is, “Omg, I just saw a midget get hit by a bus.”

I know that is a totally ridiculous text, but for some reason girls always reply. It’s because it gives an emotional spike. I know it’s nonsense but hey…it made me laugh and that’s all that matters.

I personally prefer option B because I’m getting old and don’t have time to waste on flaky chicks. RCP only seems to work on maybe ten percent of the SoSo chicks because these girls are naturally flaky. They need to be strong armed into meeting you. Some aren’t flaky, they just aren’t interested. Be aware of that.

Once I met this girl who was being text flaky. She would reply an hour after I sent a message. I chose to go with RCP for this girl.

Me: Hey where are you. Let’s meet up now.

Her: Oh hi.

Me: Where are you?

Her: At work.

Me: When are you off?

Her: In an hour.

Me: Perfect. I’ll come meet you for drinks.

Her: I don’t know. I’m pretty tired. Haha.

Me: That’s ok. I’ll buy you a drink Alcohol makes everything better.

No reply for thirty minutes. I decide to be persistent.

Me: Hey. I put on underwear today. Let’s meet up.

Her: Hahah. What? You’re so weird.

Me: Where do you work?

Her: Blah blah restaurant.

Me: I’ll be there in fifteen minutes.

Her: Well, ok.

So there you go. I just wasn’t going to give up. Sometimes this process takes several days. But you will relentlessly harass them until they submit. Then it’s a matter of working your charm in person which is much easier than trying to “create” attraction through text.

Here’s a note on sarcasm through text: Use at your own risk. Sarcasm and humor do not always translate well over text. If you are going to be funny you must have a solid abundance mentality. Like, be really willing to walk away…to not give a fuck. Girls can smell a guy that is too outcome dependent from a mile away.

Content of the text

I used to try to be really witty in my text messages…not any more. I’ve blown it too many times. Now I follow my basic rules.

Your first text has one purpose only…to have her reply

Every text after that is to show her you are a normal guy. Note…not a needy, weird guy. Although weirdness is subjective. Some girls call me weird but they mean “funny. “

Your texts should not provoke yes or no answers at first.

You: Hi girl it’s me, the guy you met at the bar. Are you having a good day?

This is a lame text. Just say your name. If she can’t remember you, she’ll let you know. Plus, you left her to give a yes or no answer. Boring. Try something like this:

You: Hey girl, it’s Tony. Did you have an epic time last night? What happened?

So “what happened?” is a totally open question. She’s going to have to fill it. Now, if she cares about seeing you at all, she is going to feed you information. She is going to invest. The more a girl invests, the greater the rapport you build, the better she feels she knows you.

Once you have her replying to your text messages, don’t mess around for long. I would say after 4 to 5 messages, go for a meet.

You: Hey. What are you doing tonight? Let’s grab a martini.

If she’s not into meeting tonight, go for Tuesday, or Thursday.

My point is you don’t need to run any super tight text game. There’s no magic bullet. Just text her some normal rapport building stuff, get her to respond, set up a meet and go meet her.

If you need to be ultra-persistent then do it. But you run the risk of pushing her away. If she’s a social circle girl this may come back to bite you. But if she’s a random girl you met on a busy sidewalk…who cares. You can meet more.

And that concludes today’s lesson. Have fun, meet more girls. You can download my free ebook with all the information you need to get started. Good luck.