They teach you where to stand at the bar, how to have good logistics, how to answer objections, how to deal with cockblocks, how to text for a date.
This is all fine. But I’m more interested in teaching men how to become so interesting that women fall in love; the way they fall in love with a great movie, a great song, or a great book.
I want them to come back for seconds, and thirds, to infinity, unless I choose to move on. This is ideal.
Of course actual “love” is more of a bond of trust, a feeling of “protection.” I’m teaching seduction.
A great seduction should feel the same as experiencing a great work of art. You enjoy it so much you enjoy it again, and again, and again.
As an example I’m picking this song. It hits me like a three pronged chaturbate dildo. It makes my skin prickle, sends bolts up and down my spine, and inspires me to create. I can listen to it on repeat.
Maybe it won’t make you feel this way, so pick a song that you love, and listen to it.
How does it make you FEEL?
This is the feeling of attraction, of love. Not love like you love your mother, or your pug. This is the “feeling” of love that people associate with romance: heightened emotion, excitement, stimulation, arousal.
Most men see seduction as a science: “If I knew what to say/do, then all my problems would be solved. Must get results! must get results!” They want a linear formula, a system. But seduction isn’t linear, and all systems can be infinitely modified.
In a pickup, I almost never know what to say, or what I’m going to do next. But because I’ve done thousands of cold approaches, my social intelligence is on auto pilot. The ritual though, is somewhat linear:
Meet girl, impress girl, bring girl home, consummate relationship.
Inside this framework there is a litany of psychological tricks like push-pull, frame-control, hoop-theory, seeding, takeaways and escalations. But the essence is that she must “feel” great when in your presence.
If you can generate great and powerful, positive emotions, you can then ever so slightly take them away, and allow her to chase the good vibes. Get her to do some of the work, so she feels she’s earned your attention.
I’m more concerned with emotions than words, but words are the ship I use to transmit emotion. In essence, good verbal game is poetry.
But what is poetry?
Poetry may seek to tell a story, enact a drama, convey an idea, offer vivid, unique description, or express our inward spiritual, emotional, or psychological states. Poetry pays particularly close attention to words themselves: their sounds, textures, patterns, and meanings. It is verbal music.
Read this excerpt from the everyman poet, Charles Bukowski:
“Love breaks my bones and I laugh.”
Can you “feel” your bones breaking under the weight of “love”? Why is it funny? Because it’s tragic? Absurd? His words make us “feel” something.
I love great art. When I go to an art gallery and gaze upon a magnificent painting, I might wonder what the artist was feeling when they crafted it. How many days, months, years, did they spend chipping away at this masterpiece? What’s the story behind the artist? Were they a tortured soul? A genius? The great artist seduces their audience.
When a girl is seduced by a man, she will see him in the same way, feel the same feelings, as if she’s watched a great film, listened to an inspiring song, read a brilliant novel, or gazed upon an intriguing photograph.
You are the work of art.
You just have to figure out how to convey that to her, in the shortest time possible.
You have to figure out how to make her “feel” something good.
It could be relief (Imagine you saved her from a tiger), laughter (you made a good fart joke), intrigue (everyone is talking about the mysterious billionaire), passion (you whisper a naughty secret as your lips brush against her ear), shock (you insult or challenge her values, causing her to question them).
I advise men to read great fiction and poetry, to watch great cinema, to travel distant lands, speak to intelligent people, and gather as much worldly knowledge as possible. Just learning about Bitcoin and fitness or Internet marketing techniques won’t make you a great seductionist. Another kino technique might help you pull that girl from the club, but unless you can intrigue her mind and senses as well, she probably won’t be a repeat customer.
This is why giving women powerful orgasms is the ultimate performance art.
For a man, a beautiful woman is the finest art. Women react to beauty as well, since they are receptive to tall, handsome men. But they are also receptive to talent, intelligence, humour, wit, intrigue, and positive emotion. Learn how to convey that talent, and the beauties of the world will be yours for the choosing.