Vocal Tonality For Picking Up Girls
There are only three types of tonality: Seeking rapport, neutral rapport, and breaking rapport. You rarely to never want to use seeking rapport tonality.
Seeking Rapport Tonality has an upwards inflection. It sounds like adding a question mark to the end of your sentence. Imagine a beggar, “Excuse me, do you have any change?”
“Hi, how are you?”
“What’s your name?”
Sometimes people add the upward inflection to every sentence, question or not. This is double plus bad.
“Wow, that’s so cool!?”
“It’s nice to meet you!?”
Seeking rapport just feels icky; like being bitch slapped with a rotting tuna.
Neutral Rapport has a flat inflection. It’s the way you would talk to your friends, or peers, or ex-girlfriend, or sister.
“Hey Chris, pass the ketchup.”
“Hey sally, how was your day.” (No question mark, more a statement). “Yeah, I had a good day at work. I’m like a God.”
You should speak to women the same way you speak to men. Newbies often add the seeking rapport inflection because of their nerves. If you’re nervous,
she will be nervous, since the law of state transference dictates this. When a man is calm, and in control, he will maintain a balanced and flat vocal tonality.
Breaking rapport is funny, not scary.
One time I had a student approach a girl in a bar. She started lecturing him on why he shouldn’t approach girls like her. I walked up and said, “Shut the fuck up with your daddy issues!” in a loud, dominant, but self-amusing way.
For a minute I said nothing else to her. Then she looked up at me and said, “So are you going to make out with me, or what?”
Breaking rapport separates you from the needy and desperate. It asserts dominance and social status. Females react well to dominance if demonstrated in a playful manner.
“Hey! Come here!”
“Where are you from!?”
“Are you having a good night!?”
Breaking rapport can be quite powerful as an attraction building technique. The reason being, it knocks a woman down. Also, she’s so used to guys fawning and complimenting and being nice with their annoying seeking rapport tonality, it’s just so different. She will think, “What a jerk! If he talks to me this way, he must be confident. He must get women.” Women are strange creatures, but they have to weed out weakness somehow.
I can just picture girls reading this and shaking their heads. They think I’m saying to be mean. I’m not. When you break rapport, it’s not from a place of hate, or anger, it’s a playful, positive expression. She will understand this on a subconscious, and then conscious level. It goes straight for the lizard brain.
In a documentary called, “The Great Happiness Space,” about Japanese Hosts, (men that entertain women for money,) the girls that love them say, “The reason I like Ichi, is because he scolds me. Like my father or brother would.”
If you’re not that experienced, scolding can go horribly wrong. But once you get the hang of breaking rapport tonality, the results can be dramatic and promising.
***That was an excerpt from, “I Hope It’s Sunny Out,” my daygame book. Grab a copy now you horny bastard.***