To be heard. To be noticed. To be understood. To be pitied. For comfort and reassurance.
Mostly, it’s for attention.
It feels nice to take all of your anxiety, doubts, insecurities, and share them with someone, or online, to the world.
But does it help?
No. Not usually.
There’s a difference between asking for help, and whining. When people ask for help, they usually take the advice and say, “Thank you.” They then sort through the advice, devise a plan, and execute their escape strategy.
Whiners just take the advice and shit all over it. Then they go back to whining.
Whining is usually a persons way to highlight a perceived injustice. I’ve done it, even on this blog. It’s given me something to write about at least. But what did I solve by whining? Nothing. But I did manage to create an article, which is taking action. I created entertainment. And by writing about my own issues, it helped me sort them out.
As far as your game is concerned, whining will not help you.
Asking for advice will help you. Taking action will help you. Whining will not.
Here’s a short video on victim mentality, and what it truly takes to find success with women. Enjoy.