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“There’s This One Girl I Really Like” Syndrome

June 3, 2015 by Tony D

needyI receive quite a bit of mail that usually falls into the: “There is one girl I really like. How do I get her?” category.

I’ve edited out some of the details here, but let’s examine one.

This is going to look very creepy to you but I use Facebook messenger to talk to people, because for the reason above and I sent a message to a girl that just did graduate high school and I knew her well that I talked to her but it was just a “hey how are you doing?” It was about 11:40 pm in the evening and my last message to her was “goodnight, talk to you later?” With a question mark because at the time I wrote that I knew she would be busy over the next 2 months getting ready for college, she looked at the message but never responded, I checked to see what time she. Seen the message and it was 1:09 am, what was it that I said in the message that wouldn’t get me a response. Was it the “?” That I didn’t get a response. Thanks for your time and hope to hear from you soon.

When I see a message like this, I groan. It almost hurts how little this poor bastard knows about himself, never mind women.

“This is going to look very creepy to you but I use Facebook messenger to talk to people.”

Why would he consider using Facebook creepy? Feeling, “creepy,” is one of those insidious mental blocks that keep us from social confidence. Always remember that within the law, one shouldn’t give a shit what people consider creepy. This assumes you’re not some unbalanced sociopath, but sending someone a Facebook message is far from creepy. Wanting to eat human toenails, that’s creepy.

So he asks her how she’s doing, and say’s, “Good night, talk to you later?” His anxiety is that the question mark (?) implies neediness, which it does. And for whatever reason, this girl read the message, but didn’t reply.

Here is why women read but don’t reply to messages:

The aren’t interested.

It’s not because you asked a boring personal question, or because you added a question mark. It’s because she’s not interested.

So as always, with every single message I get asking, “Why won’t she text me back?” (read the comments) or, “Why didn’t she reply to my message?” the answer is always, “She isn’t interested.” And the solution is always the same:

Go meet more girls.

Go outside, go to a party, get on Tinder, approach a girl at the mall.

This girl didn’t text you back because you wrote this email. Do you understand? Someone that would be worthy of dating her, would never write me this email. He wouldn’t be stressed over a girl not replying to a boring, value taking message that projects neediness. He wouldn’t worry about his punctuation either. He wouldn’t care if she replied or not, because HE HAS OPTIONS. 

The man with options, with abundance, will not be worried about how to attract a girl who isn’t interested. Women will be interested because you have options. That’s how women work.

GO MEET MORE WOMEN! GET OFF YOUR DAMN INTERNET AND MEET GIRLS. 

I have a book for $5 that will teach you everything you need to know about how to meet girls in the daytime. 

When you don’t want or need her, that’s when she will be yours.

And if you don’t know how, or have the balls and game to meet more girls, then you better learn.

***I have a Euro Trip Coming up. Are you In England, Germany, Poland, Netherlands or any funky Euro city? I’ll be there soon. Contact me for a free consultation.***

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