Metaphors suck in the digital age. How can I describe a broken record? It’s an archaic cliché. How about a scratched CD that skips? How about a glitching mp4 file on a faulty VLC media player? It all sounds like robot love but the robots are screwed. Once they find their souls, they’ll realize there’s nothing to latch onto. A flower will always be a flower, at least until it grows wings and a brain.
When you find yourself repeating patterns, like getting up, getting your coffee, going to work, coming home, having a beer, watching Netflix and sleeping, or any variation of an extreme repetition—you are stuck in comfort.
We love our patterns. We stick to the same music, the same old friends, the same sports, the same types of books and movies. And this isn’t necessarily “bad.” It’s how we develop skill: through repetition. But when you’re lifestyle stagnates on repeat, you grow dull, fat and uninspired. Your lifestyle might be one big bad habit.
The easiest way to break bad habits is to separate yourself from the environment that fosters repetition.
Travel. Go on a trip. Get away from your safety zone. Separate yourself from your technology.
Go alone, leave your friends behind and make new ones.
This blog is primarily about men and their desire to make love with beautiful women. Are you one of the men that aren’t taking action? Are you creating excuses, reasons and justifications?
I work too much
I can’t afford it. I’m broke.
I’m still in school.
For whatever excuse you’ve made, the reality is, you’re stuck on repeat. You’re jammed and you need to break the cycle.
Leave. Leave that small town. Leave your city. Leave your Mom’s house. Go to another place, without your creature comforts. Go where you know nobody and will be forced to live a different lifestyle.
This doesn’t mean you should go to a high end resort and be waited on by slaves.
It could mean going into the mountains for two days and camping. Or going to another city and renting a room for two weeks. It could mean going to SE Asia for three months like I’m planning this winter.
When I’m trying to get work done, I make sure my desk is clean, and free of distraction. I turn off the phone, block the Internet. I take away all distraction so I can focus on my art. Yet sometimes I find myself on repeat. But it’s comfortable. It’s nice. It’s safe.
So what’s wrong with being comfortable and nice and safe?
There is no growth in safety. In order to grow as a human, you need new experience. You need to push your comfort zone. You need to try new ways of being, of doing.
I’ve found the easiest way to expand my life experience is by learning from other people, new people. The next time you travel, instead of sitting in your resort being fed booze by underpaid servants, go out and meet the locals. Meet real people and ask them about their lives. Learn how they live. Find out what their patterns are. Find out what their repetitions are. Let them teach you and teach them in return.
Take a trip. Get the fuck out while you’re still young and capable.
Your job will still be there, and if not, you can find another, better job.
Your girl can wait, and if she can’t, you can find another.
Your “stuff” is only stuff. You can buy more, or lend it to your friends.
Your house is just another “thing.”
There is a solution to every crisis of the soul. But it’s up to you to embrace your fear, and go for it.
When you’re on the brink of eternity, you will never regret travel and life experience. So do it now and break your cycle of mediocrity.
Are you afraid of change?
Sometimes, to get out of bed and face the same thing, over and over and over again, is the greatest act of courage.
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