Developing Discipline in Pickup

A big, big problem most new guys have is that they try pickup for a few weeks, and then they get lazy and quit going out. This is the same mechanism that has us quit everything. We quit working out, quit advertising, quit cleaning our apartments, quit feeding our dogs…

Learning how to pickup women takes discipline. So developing discipline means creating new habits. In this post I’ll give you seven simple steps to develop the discipline necessary to get your butt out there and approach more women.

1. Make the decision to be decisive. Tell yourself you are going to go out five nights a week if necessary. Tell yourself you WILL do this. Whatever path you are taking, you need to commit to it. Many guys mull over this idea and never mentally commit. You need to commit 100%.

2. Never allow an exception. Do not make rationalizations, “Oh it’s raining tonight,” or, “I need six beer first but I’m broke.” The girls are out there and they don’t give a crap about your excuses. The moment you decide to change you plan, you have to start this process from the beginning.

3. Tell your friends about your commitment. If you can’t tell your close friends that you are practising seduction as a hobby, then join your local pickup or seduction group. Often these are called, “Lairs.” Like in Vancouver we have, “The Vancouver Lair.” These men’s groups give lazy bastards like yourself support in these endeavours. They will hold you accountable.

4. Use visualization techniques. Picture yourself going out, approaching and attracting women. Imagine the result and the reward. Try to feel great. You’ll notice as soon as you finish this exercise you will want to get out and actually DO what you just imagined.

5. Use affirmations. I know this sounds corny, but tell yourself what you are going to do. Say out loud, “I’m going out tonight, no matter what. I’m going to approach and flirt with ten women. I’m awesome. I’m disciplined and focused.” Affirmations are a very powerful tool for shaping your unconscious thoughts—even if they seem silly at first.

6. Persist. If you fail and find yourself staying at home and not practising like you told yourself you would, realize you screwed up, and then make the correction. Start back at step one and begin again.

7. Reward yourself. If you get out there and do your approaches, applaud yourself. Play video games, have a high carb snack, go to the gym, watch a movie. It’s important that you have fun with this process.

New habits aren’t formed in days. They take months, even years. If you want to get good with women, you MUST go out regularly and interact with them. There is no other way. So develop discipline, face your fears and shape yourself into a man that gets chicks. Good luck.