Do Looks Matter?
Guys sometimes ask me if looks matter. This depends. Would you like to date hot girls? Yes? Then looks matter. Do you have high status? No? Then looks matter.
When a woman considers your value, looks are at the top of her list. If you’re fat, short, bald, acne prone, smelly, snaggle toothed, poorly groomed, poorly dressed, very skinny or just plain ugly–you will have a harder time picking up beautiful girls. The phrase “looks don’t matter” is a lie. Women care.
When women sit over their no fat latte’s to discuss their dating lives, the word “but” is used often.
But he’s really funny.
But he’s in a band.
But he’s rich.
But he’s really confident.
But he owns his own business.
But he’s really smart.
Unfortunately the “but” is always attached with a “He.”
He’s fat but he’s hilarious.
He has bad breath but he’s in a band.
He has no talent, but…..err, but….ummm.
So yes, you should go on a diet, or gain weight, or buy new clothes.
Most Game theory focuses on developing charm, usually in the form of humor and bold escalation tactics. Being funny and daring can do wonders for your game, but you’ll still be a nerdy looking guy with big balls and a few one liners. The women can see you for who you really are: an insecure guy with an inner game Band-Aid.
Game isn’t just about spitting lines and approaching as many women as possible. It’s about increasing your overall sexual market value. Looks DO matter. As does your job, your choice of friends, hobbies, talents, and lifestyle. It all adds up.
Practice your cold approach, work on your verbal game and play the numbers. You will get better at it. But denial isn’t a river in Egypt. Get the rest of your shit together. Save up for some decent clothes, a gym pass, a nutritionist, a dentist, a hair stylist. Get your look in order because women are adding all of it up. Erase the “but” from her conversations.
If you want to date fatties, dumb girls, lazy chicks, boring chicks…then tell yourself looks don’t matter. You’ll always attract your equal. If you want to date up, get your shit together and work on the rest of your life as well.
It’s likely you didn’t win the genetic lottery, I know I didn’t. But with dedication and some hard work you can go from a 4 to 6 in looks. Then if you’re a 6, you can work on your verbal game, become witty and funny—now you’re a 7. Get on stage, start a band, become a stand up comedian, direct a movie or write a play—now you’re an 8.
Put it all together and you’re hot. Hot enough to date whatever sort of women you want.
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sounds like someone called u ugly today. 🙂 i am tall but average looking and i have to say that looks never seemed a deal breaker to me when talking to girls.
yeah, but having a bit of looks-based vanity might have helped me in many situations.
I’m not talking about “talking” to girls. I’m talking about “fucking” girls.
It’s not your vanity that matters. It’s that you can approach all the girls you want, but if you neglect getting into shape, or buying clothes, or attaining achievement based status, you’re fighting an uphill battle.
Most of the “looks don’t matter” stuff on the Internet is motivational, which is fine. But confidence and wit is only one part of the seduction puzzle. That’s the truth.
Great post, the fact that you need to have more than just a band aid over your life problems is the difference between some hot chick that’s got nothing going for her but her beauty and someone with a future who’s also smoking hot.
Looks are an important aspect, but bring this attitude to the rest of your life “your job, your choice of friends, hobbies, talents, and lifestyle.” and there no stopping you. Not to mention when you really try and change your whole lifestyle, more doors open up and it’s a lot more fun. Interested to see what’s in your book. 😉
Hi Tony , so what am I , a 4 ? A two ? Please don’t say I’m a 1 ( one ). Or , if I am a one ( 1 ) , then I better get my game face on ! ( improve my looks ) Find my mojo , could be another way to put it. My mom says I have a lot going for me. She says I should get a job , however.
Also , ( if I’m a one ( 1 ) ) , let it be known that I don’t scare the girls anymore. Do you remember that time that white girl called the cops ? Those white girls are to dominant for me. They’re to loud , also.
Lately , women , they laugh at me. Is girls laughing at you good ? A lot better then getting arrested , if I may.
Also , I’m not shy of being a two. That’s because I used to be a one ( 1 ) ! Tony , you’re such a kind hearted person , you’ll probably give me a 6. I will work on my looks. My lifestyle is somewhat hopeless. Also I don’t really know anything or have any friends or hobbies. You’re my only friend.
Do you ever think I’ll get a sweet , gentle , exotic , Asian gf ? ( that wears “leggings” )
You can say the truth , I can take it. You’re the best bro , my only friend ( because you help me so much ).
To the blessed life , your friend , Timmy.
Ps: Do you think I should go back to that mall ? It’s been almost a year. Perhaps different people work there. I hope that same Asian chick still works in that bubble tea kiosk. If I see that same security guard ( the one that has smelly breath ) , I feel like phoning the cops on him . Then man – handling him into the back room. That guy needs to take your course.
Thanks bro