If you want to be great at picking up beautiful girls, you must learn how to talk…
There’s a cultural narrative that “being cool” is how you attract women. This is true, you should be a cool guy, but not a “quiet guy.”
After many years in this dating game, I can tell you with 100% conviction that just “being cool” does not work.
Being a try-hard is far, far more effective.
When me or my friends pickup girls, we talk, and talk, and talk. And when we’re not talking, the girls are. And if the girls aren’t talking, we are. There is no silent gap. There is no James Bond with the martini, staring silently into her eyes. Not in the beginning. Not during the seduction phase.
The moment you chill, act aloof or indifferent, is the minute she will grow bored, or another guy will swoop in and steal her. This is more pronounced with night game of course. But even in the daytime, if you just approached a girl and you stand around “thinking” of what to say next…you’re done. You’re a bore.
There is no room for melancholy behaviour. You don’t know what to say? She doesn’t care. So you better learn to harness your million dollar mouth piece. We’re living in the age of instant entertainment, and if you’re not the entertainment, her smartphone, her friends, or the next funny and chatty guy will be.
When you hook a girl, you keep those gums a flappin. I call this “The Pied Piper.” The Pied Piper blew his little flute and danced all the mice (children in other versions) out of his German town. When you’re picking up a girl, you blow that little flute, because the minute you stop, she will be gone. I’ve seen and experienced this hundreds, thousands of times. When you get that girls interest you must display your personality to the best of your ability in the allotted time she’s given you.
Of course there’s a time to lay back and be quiet. This is after you’ve had sex.
Yes. You want sex, with many women, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s called being a man.
The reason I advocate going for sex as soon as possible, is because it is possible. Once you sleep with a girl, she’s far less likely to go off with the next funny guy she meets, because she’s already slept with you. When a woman decides to let you sleep with her, she’s going up against a lifetime of social programming.
She doesn’t want to be seen as easy, like a cheap slut, so she will often continue to date the guy she already slept with. And she will sleep with the guy with the best game. He will be the best talker, the best dancer, the most fun and entertaining and determined. If that’s not you, or you don’t know how to be that guy, you best learn.
Unless you have very high social value, like you’re in a band, you’re a male model, or you’re from a wealthier and freer society than her, you won’t hold her attention simply by existing. Beautiful women have many, many options. So why should she choose a shy, quiet guy?
This my friend takes practice. A lot of practice. Maybe years worth. And the only way to learn is by making many, many mistakes. So go out today, and play to fail. Talk and talk and talk, even if it’s the equivalent of verbal diarrhea. This is how you learn, like any great politician, stand up comedian or even a painter. You create something out of nothing in an immensely entertaining manner. You will be bad at it at first, but with dedication you just might achieve mastery.
As for what to say–It doesn’t really matter, as long as you don’t beg, or plead. Enthusiasm is the key.
“I love my cat. He’s the cutest little pussy in town. But if you touch his fat little belly he will kick your ass.”
“Nintendo is so much better than XBOX. You don’t play XBOX? Get away from me.”
“Did you know that the African squirrel can run over 30 kilometers per hour on open ground? No, it’s true. I swear.”
“Do you like Mcdonalds? Yes? Me too. Now we can sleep together!”
“Just look at that tree, you know what it reminds me of? My dead Grandma. Is that weird? Yeah. Shit. I’m sorry. Come here.” (hug and pretend to cry.)
Talk about where she’s from. Ask her what she does for work, or what she studies. Boring? Who cares. It’s a start. Shit, tell her how pretty she is, and how much you would like to spend time with her. It’s better than staring into your phone or awkwardly at her face while you stress about being boring.
Anyway, it takes practice. But like any skill, you can learn to be an amazing conversationalist like me. Well, maybe not like me, but let’s say, 75% as good as me.
Now get your butt outside today and meet some women.
Oh yeah. If you really need help, hire me. That’s what I do.