Yesterday my Toronto student finished the second day of our daygame bootcamp by walking off with an adorable young lady for a coffee date
We’d been at it, approaching girls in the mall with simple compliments, for two days—8 hours in total—with breaks for theory in between missions.
It took him about twenty tries over those two days to find a girl that liked him, was single and open to love. And really, that’s what it’s about: finding a girl who’s into you, and then not screwing it up by saying or doing dumb shit.
When I meet a client and teach him daygame, I have a check list I run through:
Style and grooming: Is he dressed well and clean? If not, I take him shopping.
Body Language: Can he hold eye contact? Is he standing up straight? Is he jittery or well grounded like a confident man?
Vocal Tonality: Does he have an upwards inflection in his voice, like a nervous teenager, or does he sound masculine and confident? Does he speak to women the way he would speak to a close friend? Or does he sound like a bad salesman?
Inner Game: Does he have doubts, limiting beliefs and self-esteem issues that will hinder him from finding the confidence he needs to attract women? If not, I use meditation, motivational speeches and philosophy to pump up his state, and change the way he sees himself. Does he have the winners, “Whatever it takes to succeed,” mindset that so many men lack? I help him change the way he views himself and the world he lives in. To give him the, “I don’t give a fuck,” attitude that women find irresistible.
Physical Game: Is he able to initiate physical contact without creeping the girl out? From a simple handshake, to a touch on the shoulder or a hug? is he brainwashed by society to believe that any human contact is rape? I demonstrate for him by becoming physical with women on the street, hugging, kissing, and even dancing with pretty girls I’ve just met. Then I make him do the same, starting with high fives and thumb wars. This is all in my book, I Hope It’s Sunny Out.
Verbal Game: Does he make insightful observations, or simply state the obvious? Does he ask deep questions, or shallow ones? Can he make her laugh, or is he boring and logical? Can he elicit her emotions, or does he give her an emotional flat line.
Closing: Does he always try to close, to get the number, the date, the kiss or the bang? Or does he give up without even trying? I make sure closing is a habit.
Numbers Game: And most important, is he willing to play the numbers game? Is he able to say, “Next,” and when rejected, move on to the next girl and try again? Because in the real world, this is necessary. Women very, very rarely approach men. And if you aren’t willing to play by numbers, you will be single for a very long time. So when things don’t work out, just say, “Next!” and try again, and again, and again, until you meet a girl that is willing to look past your imperfections and give you a shot.
Unicorns exist. You just have to find them.
***Are you interested in taking a daygame program? Email me for a free consultation. Vancouver to Bangkok, I’m willing to travel. Just ask.***