Most guys are totally concerned, or more like consumed with “what to say to girls” in order to create attraction.
Like, if you only knew what to say, then everything would be ok.
So you don’t approach women, because you don’t know what to say.
And you don’t know what to say, because you don’t approach women.
Here’s a question: Do you ever run out of things to say when you’re hanging out with your best friend?
No, you don’t.
So then, why do you run out of things to say when you’re hanging out with women?
You aren’t hanging out with any women. That is why you don’t have anything to say.
When a guy tells me this, I don’t see a man who doesn’t know what to say—I see a boy who is insecure about his attractiveness and value to the opposite sex, and wants to know how to become more attractive through his words.
The other night I took a girl out a party, to a park, where we made out under a tree. It was pretty awesome.
What did we talk about?
I told her that I liked to write stupid poems on people’s Instagram photography.
She showed me some of hers and I said, “I would like to write my stupid poems on your photography.”
“Ok!” She replied.
“I would also like to take you out of this party and go walk somewhere.”
“Get your shoes. I will meet you at the door.”
“Ok. I’ll be right back.”
The difference between myself and guy who doesn’t know what to say, is that I understand my value. I understand that I am a fun, confident, and attractive guy that a pretty woman would want to hang out with.
Even if they don’t see me that way, I see me that way.
I also know what I want, and I’m able to communicate it.
“I want to take you out of this party and go walk somewhere.”
The chance that she would say “Ok!” was slim. But…I knew how to communicate my desire.
I remember one girl I slept with by saying “I would like to take off all of your clothes and kiss your naked body from bottom to top.”
“You still can!” She said.
And I did.
The problem men have is not that they don’t know what to say—it’s that they lack the courage to say it. They don’t believe in their worth, their attractiveness, or their value. Their self-esteem is so low, why would any attractive woman want to listen to what they have to say? Why would they want to leave with them, or let their clothes be removed and have every inch of their bodies kissed?
Instead of worrying about “what to say” instead worry about “what you want.”
What do you want? Do you even know?
What do you want?
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