Sure it feels good to scream through windows at the shithead driver, the bastard who cut you off, or send psionic daggers to the club cockblock.
But does it help you?
You can blame feminism, western women, and western culture for your inability to get laid (Much love Rshv). You can hunt elsewhere, overseas, for your Poosy Paradise, or future wife.
You can blame your looks, your lack of money, and your lack of status on your failure with dating. (Every Yin needs a Yang. Power if left unchecked. It’s a sick community. It’s really sad what that site has become. A caricature of insane parrotry).
We lovingly wrap ourselves in self-pity, anger, regret and blame. A cocoon of denial, like the Emporer Palpatines cloak. It just feels so fucking common! .
We’re addicted. The high, it’s brutal. Study the replies underneath any controversial blog or forum post. The screaming of angry humans, scrapping over ideas, for a dose of illusionary power. Emotion porn.
It’s not cool guys. Not cool.
Destruction is never as satisfying as creation. And all negativity, if not converted to positivity, causes destruction. Maybe not to physical property, but maybe just a bit of stress that knocks 15 minutes off your life. Time meant creating. Even a nasty blog comment is destruction because it causes someone pain. Ignoring a girl because she’s fat…destruction.
How will that help you?
Do you remember why you got into self-help? Why you Googled “Pick up Artist?” Why you wanted pretty, smart, women in your life?
I’ve written certain, slightly embarrassing posts in the past. Because I was pissed, at them (hubba hubba, not trolls). And still am from time to time. And I’ll probably be angry at them again. I’m more self-aware now–but it’s frustrating when you really, really, want something…and you can’t have it. Your best is nothing but a series of failures. Vagina farts.
So you get angry, and accuse. That’s natural. We do that. But it won’t help you, not at all. So bring awareness to that anger.
“Oh, I’m angry. This is interesting”.
What does it feel like, in your body to be angry? Like Power? Like love? Like a unicorn gnawing at your butthole? No…not like that.
Does anger feel like a naked, sexy, beautiful woman, running her fingers up and down your chest while she sings peaceful songs in your weary ear?
Does it feel like honourable money in the bank, or a well deserved vacation after a long creative work?
Does it feel like your heart pounding after a good workout? (Sex..)
Does it feel like arriving in a foreign land as an adventurous lover of life and women? A young philanthropist.
Does it feel like knowledge gained by reading great books?
Does it feel like achievement?
Anger is a warning…A survival mechanism. It’s only meant as a flashing light, not a lightsaber.
It’s a sign that something is unbalanced, like an elephant on a ball, you teeter between greatness and sloth. Being angry will not help you get laid, lose fat, make money, or fix past mistakes. It might motivate you, but not help. You might be leaning a little too hard on anger. Your moral rigidity has become fundamentalist. Fundamentalists need perpetual war to maintain peace. They are enforcers, not lovers.
Again, I’m not saying you can’t improve yourself while you are angry…it just won’t help you. It might motivate you in the short term, but it won’t last. You will burn yourself out, as negativity leads to destruction.
Anger is a drain on your stamina and emotional resources. If you are to be productive, creative and charming, you need to balance your state. You must stay positive. Positive energy will always have greater longevity than negative energy.
If you need proof, try to pickup women when you’re angry, sad, frustrated, insecure or jealous. Then try again when you’re happy, healthy and abundant. The results will be clear. I’ve learned this the hard way from six years of approaching girls and four years of teaching. It works better when you’re feeling good, clear, happy and abundant. No guilt, no shame, no negative energy.
If you learn how to seduce women with positive energy, you will learn a skill, an emotional frame, and a mindset that will spill over into every area of your life. And don’t lie to them! If you want to date other women, let them know. You’d be surprised what you get when you ask for it. You don’t need to ask, only to invite.
Step one to a more positive life: Become self-aware.
The next time you’re pissed—acknowledge it. Just say, “I’m angry,” out loud. Shit, say something stupid, like, “Snarple tits in Grandma’s gin and ovaltine!” Follow with deep breathes.
Acknowledging your emotional state while expelling the energy through deep and long breaths, will calm you.
Then halt your thoughts. Pick a spot on the wall, stare at it, and stop thinking.
Then tell yourself, “I feel happy. I’m fucking stoked on life. I don’t care. Whatever.”
Negativity will not help you.