What to Say When You Talk to Women

“I don’t know what to say.” 

This is the number one complaint I hear from men who want to be better with women. 

Even though there are limitless “what to say” advice videos on Youtube, online courses, books, and more, they still don’t know “what to say.” 

They don’t practice because they have approach anxiety. And they have approach anxiety because they don’t know what to say. 

It’s what we call a “paradox.” 

I’ve struggled for years to figure out a simple equation to help guys remember all the verbal game techniques. I wish I had a cool name like the SuperGod Method or something, but I decided to keep it simple. 

Here’s my simple abbreviation for men who need help remembering what to say. 

I call it “EIE.” 

EIE

In any conversation where you take the lead, you should be executing one of three things: 

• Educating
• Illuminating
• Entertaining 

There are loads of techniques a guy can bust out in an approach, or a date. 

• Cold reads
• Push Pull
• DHV Stories
• Roleplaying
• And so much more. 

P.S. I cover all of these in my course material in my paid community on Skool. 

All of these techniques can fall into these three categories with EIE. So whenever you’re stumped on what to say next, pick something from EIE. 

Educate

You’ve heard of women in college falling for their professors. 

You can teach her anything you know that she doesn’t. This puts you in an authoritative position. 

Also, it’s just fun to learn new things. But only if you’re really interested in the subject. 

This means teaching her something that you find fascinating. Maybe you know meditation. If she’s never meditated then you can teach her. 

You can teach her how to fix her car, how to travel the world for cheap, or how to properly read a book. 

You may not have a lot of money, or influence, or good looks… but you know ALOT of stuff about stuff, which makes you very intriguing to talk to. 

I have a student who learned about astrology and he’s found it extremely useful. Many women are fascinated by his knowledge of the stars. 

You could know a lot about Roman history, or Bigfoot, or racing drones. It doesn’t really matter, as long as you’re passionate, and can teach it. 

However, there are exceptions. She might not find crypto mining or American politics as interesting as how to lose 20 pounds in two months through fasting and keto. 

Also you risk becoming a know it all mansplainer. It’s important to gauge her reaction. If she’s yawning, checking her dm’s or her eyes are rolling into the back of her pretty skull… change the subject. 

Illuminate

To illuminate means to show insight into her personality or behaviours. 

Women love hearing about how other people view or perceive them. They also tend to be fascinated by anything occult or mystical. We call this “chick crack” or “cold reading.” 

Examples of cold reading include: 

• Palm reading
• Tarot cards
• Personality tests
• Astrology
• Reiki
• And so forth… 

There was a man in Tzar era Russia named Rasputin. He was so good at illumination that he elevated himself to the highest echelon of society. He was what we call a mystic. 

You might not become friends with the Tzar, but a good palm reading can go far when impressing a pretty girl on a coffee date. 

Entertain

What do comedians, actors, musicians, mimes, and even politicians have in common? 

They’re entertaining. 

Who doesn’t love to be entertained? 

Entertained is the opposite of bored. 

You can entertain her by: 

• Telling stories
• Making jokes
• Cooking a meal together
• Or even showing her your instagram feed

Every man should have a handful of good, tested stories in his back pocket. You should have some witty quips, jokes or one liners. 

The next time you approach a girl and get her laughing, or is super engaged with your story, write it down, memorize it, and try it again on the next girl. 

Conclusion

When you’re staring at the girl and can’t fathom “what to say” just remember this formula. It’s not a perfect solution, but it’s better than standing there with your mouth open, staring into space. 

• Entertain
• Illuminate 
• Educate

Put in simple terms, make sure you’re not boring her to tears. Follow this template and you’ll be light years ahead of most guys who have zero clue what to say to girls. 

Ideally, with enough field experience this flow will come naturally and you won’t need a formula. 

Personally, I don’t need a formula. My sixteen years of experience with cold approach has given me the unconscious competence to talk endlessly and fascinate just about anyone willing to listen. 

This is a skill anyone can learn, assuming they have a healthy mind and functioning libido. 

Until next time. 

Tony Depp.