Especially with totally unique and powerful openers like: “I just saw you, thought you were cute and wanted to say hi.”
Armed with this awesome technique, scores of chads in training are roaming the streets of cosmopolitan cities announcing their attraction to dozens of women a day, and usually going home with flaky phone numbers.
This is because an opener alone isn’t solid game. It’s just an opener. There’s a lot more to Day Game than that.
If you’re one of these poor bastards, about to give up on day game and go back to Chaturbate and Call of Duty, then I’m here to help.
Here are My 20 Best Day Game Tips Ever!
1. Open indirectly:
The problem with direct openers is that it’s a 50/50 chance, or worse, that she will knee-jerk react with, “Sorry I have a boyfriend.” This method does show you have big cajones, but if you’re not in the top twenty percent of physically attractive men, then you’re killing your chance of displaying your other quality traits, like wit, creativity, intelligence and humour.
A good indirect opener can be unique, entertaining, situational, and calibrated to the present moment. They allow you to display your personality, and qualify her based on how you like her personality, before you hit on her.
Perhaps you talk about the food she’s eating, or the weather, or the music, or her clothes. The list of topics for good indirect openers are endless. I give plenty of examples in my Day Game book, I Hope It’s Sunny Out.
I’ve had 40 year old men show up to bootcamp in sweatpants and jogging shoes. Eighteen year olds arriving in over-sized suits with briefcases. Day Game is all about making that first impression that says, “I will fit into your life, and you into mine.”
It’s not hard to dress well. You don’t need to be a dandy, but at the very least own new, fitted jeans, clean collared shirts, and decent shoes. There are plenty of fashion for men resources on the Internet. I take most of my clients to Zara. Their clothes are stylish and affordable, because they’re made by Vietnamese children. God bless them.
If you have to travel fifteen miles to Day Game, you won’t have a lot of motivation to actually go out and practice. If you’re really serious about changing your life, move somewhere with a high volume of attractive women, right outside your front door. Just seeing beautiful women when you go to the cafe will motivate you to practice your Day Game.
4. Record Your Approaches:
Most guys complain that they, “Don’t know what to say,” to girls they approach. Yet they’ve watched hundreds of hours of pickup videos, read thousands of pages from seduction ebooks, and studied dozens of online courses. You do know what to say–you just aren’t practicing.
Use your smart phone and a pair of ear buds. Download an audio or voice recording app, and record your interactions. Then you can listen to them later, analyze your interaction and improve your verbal game.
5. Join a Community
Learning game is really hard to do on your own. It can be downright terrifying to approach a beautiful girl. But when you have other men going through the same process, motivating and holding you accountable, it becomes much easier. There are hundreds of Pua forums online where you can find local groups, or lairs, in your community. Join them, introduce yourself and meet up.
Push-Pull is the most under utilized verbal game technique. Most new Day Gamers think a direct opener is all they need. A classic push pull is, “I like you but we’re too similar. We’d never get along,” or, “You’re so cute. Too bad you’re not my type.” There are thousands of variations of this. Once you understand the concept you can make your own.
You might not know what to say to girls, but you can learn.
Don’t be so easy. Women love a challenge. Read up on Push-Pull and make the game a little more fun for her.
7. Stand Up Straight
So many guy slouch. This is because your terrified lizard brain wants to protect its vital organs from the cave bear, errrrr, sexy girl. Push your back up against a wall and step off of it. Stay this way.
“Hi? I just wanted to meet you? Ohhh, that’s so cool you’re a student?”
This is called, “Seeking rapport tonality.”
Talk to women the way you would talk to your little brother or sister: Normal.
9. Eye Contact
You might feel like you’re making good eye contact. But trust me, you aren’t. After watching hundreds of clients in set, I can tell you that almost all of you have shit eye contact. How do you know if you have good eye contact? Easy. Count how many times she breaks eye contact with you. What? She doesn’t break eye contact, at all? Then why do you?
Sounds gay right? Just believe! But it’s true. Stop telling yourself you suck, you’re just learning, you’re shy, you’re introverted. From now on tell yourself, “I’m amazing,” “I’m sexy,” “I’m strong,” “Women love me.”
Brainwash yourself in a positive way. It takes time for your subconscious to install a new personality, and new habits. So help it out.
11. Don’t Jerk Off
I’m a big fan of jerking off. It never stopped me from finding a girlfriend. But I don’t do it in the morning. Your sex drive is the vital force that compels you to go out, to socialize, to work out, to create. Don’t waste it into a tissue. Turn off the Porn, and go talk to women instead.
Kino simply refers to, “Touch.” If you don’t touch the girl, at least with a handshake, then you’re not going to cement solid attraction. Ever had a girl press her body against yours? It felt good right? Women also like being touched by people they’re attracted to. And touching in a non creepy, cool way, turns them on too. It also builds rapport and trust.
13. Two Minute Rule
Most guys eject when they run out of things to say. If you want to be great at Day Game you need to never, ever run out of things to say. They only way to do this is from massive field experience. So you must stay in your set for at least two minutes. At least! Talk about what you had for breakfast. Talk about your cat. It doesn’t matter. But don’t waste your opener by ejecting after thirty seconds. Not unless she tells you to go away. Otherwise it will take ten years to learn.
At least ask for an Instagram or Facebook. The best bet is to say, “What’s your number?” and hand her your phone. Close every single approach. This will for the habit and make getting a phone number second nature. It will also teach you that rejection isn’t that bad, and doesn’t matter.
15. Play The Numbers
Client: “I’m not getting results from Day Game.”
Tony: “How many approaches did you do this week?”
Tony: “Do thirty.”
16. Move Her
Humans are nomadic creatures. Our ancestors bonded through travel, and shared experience. If you meet a girl who isn’t doing anything important, ask her to walk with you. Go shopping, for coffee, to the park. It doesn’t matter where you go, but by walking together you will create a shared experience and tighten your bond.
17. Go Deeper With Conversation
Most Day Game conversation sounds like this:
You: “What do you do?”
Her: “I work at a Yoga studio.”
Her: “Yeah, it’s alright.”
You: “Where do you live.”
Ask probing questions that reveal her beliefs, her passions, her dreams
You: “What do you do?”
Her: “I work at a Yoga studio.”
You: “What attracted you to that?”
Her: “Well I’ve always loved yoga. It’s that feeling of being present in the moment, while getting exercise. My Sister introduced me to it, blah, blah, information, values, beliefs, dreams.”
The more information you have, the better for creating attraction, rapport, and a strong relationship.
Write out all of your approaches. Did you go direct or indirect? What was her reaction? What did you say? What did she say? How nervous did you feel? How could you have improved the approach?
Keeping a journal will allow you to sort your thoughts and later reflect on your progress. I still keep a journal. This blog is my journal.
19. Visualize Your Ideal Future
Take time every day to meditate on your ideal future. How does your game look? What does your ideal girlfriend look like, walk like, talk like? How do you feel? Amazing? Strong?
You need a target to aim for. If you visualize it, you’ll be more motivate to achieve that goal.
20. Read Books
Don’t know what to say? Perhaps it’s because all that’s in your head is PUA theory. I read about 30 to 50 books a year. Everything from Steve Jobs biography, to War and Peace, to Harry Potter. Trust me, I never, ever run out of things to talk about.
This doesn’t even cover a fraction of ways you could improve your Day Game. I could add more to the list, but I’ve already written a book about Day Game. You can get it on Amazon in your country. It’s free if you have Kindle Select.
Do you have any more tips? Let me know in the comments.
***I travel and teach live, infield Day Game Bootcamps. Contact me for a free 30 minute consultation.***