After ten weeks of travel from Canada to Mexico, I’m back and now accepting applications for students in Vancouver.
If you want to learn how to approach women, increase your charm and confidence, and find more success with women—contact me now for a free Skype consultation.
“How was your trip Tony?”
It was awesome. Thank you.
I went caving in cenotes, visited ancient Mayan ruins, partied on beaches with international beauties. swam with whale sharks, ate three hundred tacos, and made loads of new friends.
A girl I met on Isla Mujeres, a beach resort near Cancun, asked me why men needed to learn how to approach women. Why couldn’t they just do it…”naturally?”
“Well, do you think that women regularly approach men?” I asked.
“No. The average guy is pretty much never approached. Not by attractive women. How many men have you initially approached, that you can remember. Probably not many. Am I right?”
“Well. I guess not. No. Most talk to me first.”
“Have you ever used Tinder? How hard is it to find matches there?”
She laughed. “Oh, pretty much every swipe is a match. It’s just match, match, match.”
“Well, the average guy has to swipe two to five hundred swipes to get a date with a semi attractive girl. There’s a YouTube video of a slab of meat that swipes for them.”
“Oh my god, that’s hilarious.”
“Basically, I teach Tinder in real life. But instead of swiping, we actually approach, and talk to the women. If she’s nice, and single, it’s a match. If she’s rude, or doesn’t want to talk, we move on.”
She crossed her arms and squinted her eyes. “So you’re just playing the numbers.”
“Yes.” I said. “Because we have to. What choice do we have? Women aren’t approaching us, unless we’re really popular or extremely good looking. We have to meet women somehow. We’re not all in school, or have jobs with huge social circles.”
“But why not let it just happen naturally?”
I let out a sigh. “Look. There is no such thing as “naturally.” Every man learned about women from someone, or somewhere. If not from their own trial and error, then from their brother, their father, their friends or the Internet. Like, what’s a skill that you have that others don’t?”
“I like to dance.”
“How did you learn to dance.”
“From…practice.” She smiled, showing a hint of recognition.
She sort of scowled at me. “But that’s…kind of…”
“Not nice?” I said.
She didn’t say anything.
“Dating advice for men doesn’t exist to make women happy. It’s to help me get with girls. It’s to help us be more assertive, and attractive. We don’t care if the advice we read, or act on, makes you happy. You are not my clients. Men are. So I don’t care if women don’t like this advice, and men don’t care if you don’t like us learning how to approach you. We value strength, not weakness.”
I don’t think she really got it. But that’s why I rarely discuss my job with anyone except guys in fight club.
Here’s the deal. I can get away with talking to women about my job. But you should not be telling women that you had to approach hundreds, or thousands of women to develop your social and seduction skills. They don’t get it. They’re not men and they have no idea how much anxiety approaching a stranger can cause. They have no idea how difficult it can be to attract women, get dates, and get laid or find a gf.
Life is really short. Every year that goes by, I feel that little flame of inevitability. So if there’s something you really, really want to do, or accomplish—do it now. And you don’t need to explain yourself, your beliefs or your actions. You just need to do what will bring you contentment and joy.