Have You Ever Heard The Phrase, “A Man’s Word?”
Of course you have. “A man is only as good as his word.” It’s an old cliche that is rarely used outside of conversations with your Grandpa.
And is it even true?
You could be as good as your money, or your status, or your image or your skill-set. But that’s all superficial stuff.
Your word is directly linked to your honor, trustworthiness and integrity.
Without integrity, you’re not really a man
Without honor, you’re nobody: Just another human flicking around your society, breaking promises and making grand empty gestures. You’re a liar and a cheat, a small time value sucker of low character, best set to clean toilets, or sell cigarettes in prison.
I’ve had a few clients sign up for my coaching programs, and then back out at the last minute. They tell me they have financial problems, or life problems, or whatever blah, blah bullshit they come up with. They can’t tell the truth and say:
“I’m scared Tony.”
If a student flakes on me, I won’t re-accept him as a student, not for any money. This is because he has low character, and no matter how hard I work, he’ll probably blame his failures on me and leave a bad review.
I’m glad they flaked. They have no integrity.
When it comes to fear, there’s nothing dishonorable about saying, “I’m afraid.” But running from fear is shameful, disgraceful…the opposite of honor.
When a man breaks his word, he destroys all his credibility
- If you say you will do something, you do it
- If you make a date or meeting for five o’clock, you arrive on time
- If you make a promise, you keep it
- If you start a project, you finish it
Men of their word are known to be trusted, superior, and reliable. A man who breaks his word is known to be weak, unreliable, and inferior.
All of your actions have consequences
Being a man of your word will allow you to rise above your station, to achieve great power, and mastery over others and yourself. It will grant you access to powerful people, and lift you to the realms of epic greatness.
Not only should a man keep his word to others, but keep his word to himself
So if you make a contract with yourself that you will approach women every day for thirty days, make more money, go to the gym five days a week, succeed at work, write a book, quit smoking, or finish a large project, and you honor your word—you will achieve power, influence and glory.
However, if you can’t keep your word even to yourself, why would anyone trust you?
Break your word, and you’re not a man—you are a boy, and will be viewed and treated as such.
A man without honor is destined for a life of menial labour, serving the needs of powerful men.
You won’t attract great women, you’ll be fat, lazy, and without an ounce of respect from peers, family and superiors.
Women and their word
Women are not known to be creatures of their word. Many have no ambition towards honor or glory, but instead to comfort and safety. This is because their prime motivation is survival, comfort and reproduction: Their base instinct is to seek a man to give them strong, healthy babies, and provide a safe environment to raise them.
If your woman’s word is stronger than yours, then get ready to find a new girlfriend.
If their man is a weak creature, and unable to keep their word, they’ll find a man who will.
- It’s as simple as doing what you say you’ll do.
- Did you say you’ll take the garbage out today? Then do it.
- Will you look for a new job today? Then do it.
- Will you start that new website? Better Start it.
Always Whenever Possible, Keep Your Word
Then what’s the solution? It’s simple. Keep your word, or don’t give it.
Should you break your word, then be accountable and correct the issue as best you can.
how often do you break your word? If it’s often, then I ask you…are you rich, do you have a great and happy girlfriend and are you surrounded by loyal friends that will grant you favors and help you on your path?
If not, it’s not too late to change this. Just start keeping your word, and make this your most valuable character trait.
Benefits of Keeping Your Word
- Stronger, more loyal relationships
- A sense of identity
- A richer family and social life
- Be more trusted in your social circles
- More social opportunity
There’s very little downside to keeping your word.
Maybe you’ll have to move a friend’s couch in the rain, or stay at work and cram in overtime. Perhaps you won’t get to finish that last level in your favorite video game. But the result of keeping your word is that you’ll have respect.
Keeping Your Word is Like Money in The Bank
Every time you keep your word, it’s like putting money into the bank. Your reputation is that you’re reliable, honest, and trustworthy. When you need a favor, people will be happy to help, because they understand your character and if they ask you for something, you’ll keep your promises.
You Can Always Say No
It’s better to say no, then to break your word. At least you’re honest.
I had a friend who recently asked me to watch his children while he went to a swinger party. I always hate saying no to friends, but I was working on a big project, and didn’t want to commit this time. So I said no.
He’s still my friend.
Saying no mean’s you won’t break your word.
A Man Who Keeps His Word Gains Respect
Respect is a powerful emotion. It mean’s people trust you. With trust, comes responsibility, sure. But a little responsibility can lead to amazing growth. There’s nothing wrong with it.
Have You Been Running From Responsibility?
Perhaps it’s time to evaluate your reputation. Are you know as the guy who isn’t dependable? Who breaks his word?
Would you rather be the go to guy for problem solving? The winner? The man of honor?
It’s up to you who you want to be.
Start by trying a little harder to keep your word.