Lying is Bad Unless You’re Good At It
Bruce Lee.
Once of my old clients queried about the morality of having sexual liaisons with three separate women…at the same time. Not all in the same bed, like an orgiastic way. But what if one found out about the other? What if he hurt their feelings?
“Have you ever been dumped?” I asked.
“Yes.”
“Everybody gets dumped.”
“I know.”
“All of those girls you’re seeing, they’ve all dumped someone. They’ve all played someone. Even if it was in grade four, it’s happened.”
“Hmmmm.”
“Do you think women are on this planet solely for sexual gratification?”
“No.”
“Do you think every girl you sleep with believes that you are in love with her?”
“No of course not.”
I let the silence hang while he thought it out.
“You’re her education,” I continued. “Most women aren’t the fragile creatures you believe they are. This is a fantasy. While you sit back and worry about the girl’s feelings, she’s texting seven other guys from her work or school. She’s receiving 12 likes per hour on her Instagram selfies, 10 messages a day from Tinder, Okcupid, Plently of Fish and Facebook.”
“But Tony. What if she finds out I am seeing other girls?”
“Some girls will make a big deal about you seeing other girls. Some girls won’t ask, or care. But what you need to do is tell them what you want.”
“Tell them?”
“Well. Not always directly. Sometimes I wait for them to bring it up. Sometimes I let them know what I want indirectly. Here’s an example. I was walking with a new girl last week. She’d just given me blow job because she wasn’t ready to have sex on the first date. As we were walking I asked, ‘So, how many guys are you dating at the moment?’ She looked at me and blinked. ‘No one?’ She replied. ‘How many girls are you seeing?’ ‘I’m seeing another,’ I replied. The girl thought it over silently. I didn’t care if she was fine with it or not. The truth was out.
“The next week I saw her again. In our post coital glow she told me she was in fact, seeing another guy. On and off for about six months.”
“I know.” I said. And then it was settled.
You can lie. You have the right. Or you can create the truth. But you can’t control her thoughts, feeling and emotions. You can only guide them.
Never be afraid of letting a girl know what you want. It can come out directly, or indirectly. Sometimes it need not be said. But never, never feel sorry for a girl. If she’s not your girlfriend, and this hasn’t been verbally established, you can do whatever and bang whomever you wish.
And most women are great at it!