I was sitting at the beach yesterday waiting for my lovely female friend and a small group of five men and one young woman sat down beside me.
The girl, about 25, just slightly above average in looks, noticed the guys were watching a young bikini clad beauty and started to tease them. She asked these guys if any of them had a female in their lives, romantically.
They all said no (rather sadly).
“You guys are lucky,” she said, “there are so many pretty girls at the beach. I never see good looking men here.”
I thought about this. Here were five guys (and myself, cough), and a beach full of men. Yet she claims there are no good looking men, anywhere. What a sense of abundance she has!
Now there’s no shame in being single, but it was the following conversation that intrigued me.
“Have you guys tried online dating?” She asked.
They had all tried online dating.
She took out her phone and showed them her profile.
“Oh man, look at this guy with his shirt off.” One guy commented.
She told them she received twenty to thirty messages per day, but they had dropped to around ten per day after she changed her profile to read: “No hookups or one night stands.”
The conversation went on to “super likes,” which are likes that users pay for, I think. So if you receive a super like, it means that user paid money to stand out above the rest. She had four super likes.
One of the guys read the profile. “I’m an entrepreneur, a world traveller. I like to be active and love sports.”
They all laughed.
“I’m going to super like him back for you!” He exclaimed.
“No! Don’t! She cried.”
She told them that she rarely met any guy good enough to score a date with her.
The men joked about how they had all tried Tinder, to no effect.
So I looked at her. She had decent legs, an average face and was of Spanish or South American descent. She was a bit overweight, but still attractive. Most likely I wouldn’t send a student to approach her. I would look for a woman that was more intimidating—a bit hotter.
I looked at the guys. They looked like coders, programmers perhaps. Unkempt beards, no fashion sense, and every one of them was completely out of shape with beer guts and tiny arms that likely never lifted a weight. But they weren’t ugly men, not at all. With a bit of work, every one of them could be considered attractive.
But not good enough for her. Why?
Because they don’t have game. That’s why.
So why is she getting 10-25 messages a day, yet these men cannot meet one willing female?
This my horny friends, is called the law of supply and demand. There are just far more thirsty men than women in the online dating world. At least here in Canada.
This topic carried on for some time before I decided to have some fun. I thought I’d demonstrate my social skills.
“You know what one of the most popular profiles for men said? It went viral a few months ago.” I said.
They all looked to me. “What is it?” The girl asked.
“I could definitely see that working,” the girl added.
Then she asked me. “What app do you use to meet women?”
“Hello.” I said.
“Hello?” One guy said. “I’ve never heard of that.”
“No. I just mean, if I see a woman I want to meet, I go say hello. It took years of practice.”
They looked skeptical.
“I may not be the best looking guy, but I can talk, I can make women laugh, and I’m not afraid to talk to strangers. My confidence and social skills can make up for my lack of shirtless pics on Tinder.”
The men nodded their heads in agreement. I knew that none of them would have sex with this girl, or any other for a very long time. I should have brought business cards.
I went back to my book, they went back to their convo. Two pretty girls walked by in bikinis, and I admired them.
“Caught you staring.” A guy said.
“Busted.” I replied.
“You say you’re pretty charming.” The girl said. “Why don’t you go approach them?” (Shit test. It means she’s interested in me or she wouldn’t say a thing. Women will not re-initiate a conversation unless they have some sort of interest. The act of opening is in itself a demonstration of higher value, and an attractive trait.)
“Because, I’ll get in trouble.”
They laughed at me. But a few minutes later my friend arrived; a beautiful eastern European woman who I’d met at the beach the week earlier.
It was funny watching their body language change. They all stole glances.
If you have luck in online dating, then good on you. Personally, I feel the odds are against the common man. It is however a fantastic option for single women. But if you want to find great success as a man in online dating, drastically lower your standards.
I just prefer the old fashioned way.