For the most part, cold approaching women kinda sucks. It’s really not that fun. Nobody likes being rejected over, and over, and over, and over, and over…

Just hoping that one of these will stick, that some beautiful woman just happens to be giving out green lights, and now here you are, all warmed up from the last six attempts. 

But, that’s how we learn. There’s a price to pay for entry: your pride.  

The newbie suffers the most at cold approach. But it doesn’t end at year one. It never ends; rejections just become less harsh, until there are more “maybes” than straight “no thanks.” 

Lucky guys find girlfriends. The not so lucky go on to be “players.” Forever chasing the rabbit. 

No salesman loves selling, but they all love cashing their checks. 

To remain motivated, focus on “The process leads to the goal,” rather than, “Oh man, I hate daygame. Why don’t I know what to talk about?” 

But that stage only comes after A LOT of practice. Years worth. 

Sure, the self-development aspect of “The game” is fun, but in the end, most guys just want a girlfriend. They’d rather not have to go to clubs until 3 am, or daygame at malls  five days a week to find her. Some guys just really hate bars.

Many try their luck at dating apps, which is also a humbling, if not soul-crushing experience. It’s almost more of a time suck than going out, and even worse for your self-esteem. 

Anyway… You’re single, it’s rough… What can you do? 

You don’t want to party, daygame, or use dating apps. 

I advise you to still grind, but with a new purpose. Rather than focusing all of your social efforts on getting laid, focus it on providing fun. 

Bring other people together, let them mingle, socialize, network, around you. 

If you give them value, they will give you value. The law of reciprocation. And this will bring more women into your life. 

Here’s a few ideas on how to give social value, or just meet new people and women. 

Dinner Parties (And BBQ)

Dinner parties will blow up your social circle. 

Who doesn’t love going out for dinner? It’s a low investment reason to get out of the house, meet new people, and skip the dishes. 

You can have dinner parties at restaurants, or if you have a space, host your own. 

A good BBQ can be your best wingman EVER. Aside from a cute dog. 

It doesn’t have to be dinner. You could do breakfast, or brunch parties as well. You could even host picnics in a park, or at the beach. 

Set up a social media page or chat group and name it “Team BBQ” or “The Society of Dinner” and invite everyone you meet. ‘;[‘]][

Games Nights

We spend way too much time playing on our phones. People are desperate for more human connection. That’s where good old fashioned board games come in. 

Monopoly, cards against humanity, Risk, Catan… 

You could even do “Board Games and Beers” to give it a more distinct niche. 

Trivia Nights

You don’t need to host trivia nights. Just find out what pubs, bars or restaurants already host them, and promote it for them. 

Imagine you meet some cute ladies at the mall. “You girls seem smart. I’m hosting a trivia night at Billy’s Pub tomorrow. Let me add you to the Facebook page.” 

Personally I suck at Trivia, but it’s still a great way to meet people or host meetups. 

Karaoke 

I LOVE karaoke. I’m not the world’s best singer but I’ll hold my own. 

Karaoke people are a bit CULTY. It means they either love karaoke, or are terrified of it. 

Same deal, set up a Whattsapp group or something, and ask every woman you meet to attend. 

Karaoke is fun, interactive, and if you’re good at singing, it’s great social proof. 

Clubs and Meetups 

I never had much luck meeting good people with meetup.com but I’ve heard others have. 

You can even start your own group there, and promote it. But the vibe in 2025 is that meetup is for losers. 

Maybe there’s a new “meetup” type app that works better. Many people use Facebook for these things too. Look under “Groups.” You could even start your own group, grow it and offer real life meets. 

I might try a hiking group I found on Facebook. 

Speed Dating 

Speed dating is a classic way to meet women. 

If you want to find speed dating events in your city, just search for it on Google. 

I’ll admit, most of the women who attend speed dating are 5/10’s in looks. But you get an odd winner, usually the supportive friend who’s just there to “try it out.” 

If you have even a little bit of game you’ll be leagues ahead of most of the beta losers who attend these things. 

Dance Class

Salsa, hip hop, ecstatic, swing. Dance classes are a great way to meet women and get exercise. 

I personally suck at dancing. But I’ve taken a handful of salsa lessons and can hold my own in a pinch. 

You can find dance nights and classes on any social media platform. Try searching them up on Instagram, Tik Tok, Facebook, etc. 

Conclusion

Classes, events, parties, hobbies, etc

You get the point. There are loads of ways to meet new women other than cold approaching. You have dance classes, bbq’s, dinner parties, meetups, hiking clubs, meditation retreats, yoga classes, and so on, and on. 

It depends on your current interests, age and lifestyle as well. If you’re a fourty year old you may not want to host all night pool parties. Running a jogging and beers meetup might be more your vibe. 

You could even buy a nice camera and take up street fashion photography. Just start an instagram page and approach beautiful women. “You’re so photogenic and stylish. Can I take your portrait for my Instagram page?” 

There are loads of these guys on social media, and many of them end up dating these beautiful women they approach for a photo. 

While you should still learn to cold approach, don’t let it be the ONLY option. 

Until next time. 

And btw, I’m on X and posting quite a bit lately. 

Tony Depp.